The Process of Ego Reconstruction
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Ego has become such a dirty word, and I think the problem is that people are unable to differentiate between the two types of ego.
Concrete ego - This is the ego you have before undergoing ego dissolution, regardless of whether that dissolution is sudden or gradual. This is inflexible, uncompromising, and demands others conform themselves to it's perceptions.
Flexible ego - The ego you have once you've come to the realization that you aren't actually your ego. our ego is merely your *sense* of self.
You can break this version down, analyze it, rearrange it, decide what you like and dislike and then put it back together for another trial run. Because you can see yourself as separate from it, you can gauge it's effectiveness as a tool and be self scrutinizing about it.
However some form of ego is necessary. Having no ego for extended periods is impossible. If anyone has ever been through ego dissolution they can tell you attempting to interact with people without being able to distinguish which person is "Them" from which person is "Me" gets kinda difficult. Especially when "Them" can't tell they're "Me" so they keep calling "Me" by the wrong name "You".
"NO YOU IDIOT, ME IS WE, WE'RE US, AND YOU'RE ONLY YOU BECAUSE YOU TRY TO SPLIT US INTO THEM!!! WHY DO WE ALWAYS SPLIT US UP INTO USTHEM. STOP IT AND JUST BE WE ALREADY!!!"
And all interaction devolves into nonsense. It's confusing and infuriating.
You need an ego to wear as a costume in the world because your pure self can't interact without it. Also, if you manage a flexible ego, you need to break it down and reconstruct like I said regularly, or it becomes rigid.